Saturday, August 22, 2009

A Message From the Forex Trader's Wife...

August 22, 2009 by FXWife

To start, as a FOREX Trader’s Wife I will be so bold as to speak for all those who fall into my category; those who are the husband, wife, partner or significant other of a FOREX Trader, or stocks/options trader as well. This message could really come from anyone who has intimate knowledge, of who you are, someone who is personally invested in your life and well being. This message may seem simple, and easily dismissed; but, it is very important for you to understand. So here is to hoping that you are both open and receptive to what we are about to say to you.

WE KNOW MORE THAN YOU THINK WE DO !

Admittedly, we are clueless, for the most part, when we look at all those fancy charts of yours. No, we may not know exactly what a Bollinger band is, or the importance of a stochastic cross. Nor could we possibly fully embrace the elation felt when seeing a carefully planned, successfully executed trade run to its fullest potential without drawbacks; also, it is beyond our scope of understanding to clearly empathize with the horror of knowing that our capital account has just taken a severe hit due to our inability to let go of a trade that has clearly gone to hell in a hand basket. However, what we do know is you, both inside and out. The good, the bad, and the ugly, we are intimately in tune with who you are; and we are able to read those small non verbal cues that let us know what you are experiencing.

YOU ARE NOT IN THIS ALONE!

Seriously, do you think the weight of the entire world is on your shoulders alone? We are in this with you, so have a bit of consideration and communicate with us. We know when you are having a great trading day; more importantly, we know when you are having a bad trading day. Honestly, it is no secret when things are going poorly for you in the market, so if we come to you and offer you a word of encouragement, or support don’t go dismissing us arbitrarily, it may be just what you need in that moment of self loathing and self doubt. Every now and then we understand the importance of a strong dose of confidence boosting and how it can help to realign you with yourself and your positive attitude. Conversely, we also know when it is time for a good swat on the back of the head to bring you back down off that cloud your floating on. That is our job; we are here for support and understanding; as well as harsh truth and straight talk.

SO HOW ABOUT A LITTLE TRUST ?

Trust that we are not going to judge you when you mess up; also, trust that we know when the time has come for you to step away, and heed our advice and step away. Trust that we will be open to your need of reinvestment capital when you have a devastating trading day. However, trust that when we ask you what you are going to do to improve, that we are only looking to help you move forward and not dwell on the previous mistakes. In return, we will trust that you are working confidently on always doing the best you can with what is admittedly an extremely difficult profession. We will trust that you are not holding back any bad news from us that will hit us like a steam roller when you hit rock bottom.

TOGETHER

Together we will always be stronger and more confident than we are on our own. Together we can make this journey a joyful and profitable adventure.

Together we are in this for the good and the bad. Now let's make some pips!


7 comments:

  1. Thanks for that... I am sharing it with my husband! Connie - Phoenix

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  2. Thank you. I know this article will help start a much needed conversation.

    Patrick Lamm

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  3. Great article - spouses and significant others really need to be acknowledged - sportsmen/women all have a team to be successful - others are integral to our success - well written. Gilly

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  4. Great article, very helpful, always thought the significant other played an important role, no one's talked about it much though, thx for sharing :)

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  5. Great write up. We wouldn't need the support if live trading wasn't so much different than demo. LOL! Seriously speaking, I fully appreciate a couple, friend, family supporting one another learning a new endeavor that will drastically change one's like. When are we starting FXBC "girlfriend & wives live training?"

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  6. very good inside
    I am sharing this with my other half who is happen to be my wife for 24 years.
    WE KNOW MORE THAN YOU THINK WE DO !
    This show how little I know about myself and my
    other half.
    thanks Carol

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  7. Thanks FXWife. A great read - and seeing as I shared this with my wife, I didn't get a swat behind the head! ;-) fxGreG

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